Marriage

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.

Ephesians 5:15

At its most basic level, marriage is a union between a man and a woman for the purpose of procreation and mutual love and support.

In the Catholic Church, marriage is considered to be more than a natural institution. It was elevated by Christ Himself, in His participation in the wedding at Cana (John 2:1-11), to be one of the seven Sacraments. A marriage between two Christians, therefore, has a supernatural element as well as a natural one.

Call the Parish Office at least six months before the desired date.

REHEARSAL: A rehearsal for all members of the wedding party will be conducted on an evening before the wedding day, usually a Friday. Please bring with you to the rehearsal the following: the marriage license and certificate, the offering for the Church, fees for organist (and soloist.)

OFFERING:  The offering to the Church is $600.00. ($700.00 for those not registered at St. Elizabeth’s) An offering to the priest or deacon is optional.

MUSIC:  Please contact Cyril Deaconoff our Parish Music Director and Organist at 510-567-3556 four to six months before the wedding. The fee for the organist is $200.00. This arrangement is between the couple and the organist. The musical selections, vocal and instrumental, must conform to the regulations of the Archdiocese of San Francisco.  The organist will meet with you to plan music and discuss parish Mass procedures and Archdiocesan regulations on music. The fee for a soloist/cantor is $150.00, arranged by the music director. CD’s are not permitted for Mass services.

FLOWERS:  Flowers, a sign of gratitude to God for your life and a new vocation are to remain in the Church. If there is more than one wedding on the same day, the couples may want to coordinate their floral arrangements in order to cut down on expenses. If flowers or bows decorate the pews, no scotch tape or tacks are to be used to secure them.

RICE:  For the sake of safety as well as the cleanliness of the church property, the throwing of rice, birdseed or confetti is not allowed. Please inform your friends about this matter.

PHOTOGRAPHERS: Please notify your photographers to check with the priest or deacon before the ceremony. Flash pictures may be taken only as the bridal party enters and leaves the church. Photographers are asked not to move around during the ceremony. Pictures may also be taken in the sanctuary for no longer than half an hour after the wedding. Those participating in the photo session should be quiet and show respect for the sacred environment .

PUNCTUALITY:  Please be on time for both the rehearsal and the wedding itself. It is a simple courtesy to the guests and the priest or deacon.

RING BEARER AND FLOWER GIRLS:We discourage using children under the age of five for the role of ring bearer or flower girls because their attention span is very short and their behavior sometimes unmanageable and unpredictable. Flower girls must not scatter petals or flowers in the Church wedding.